Are you ready for a first date? If you clicked on this article, you may be expecting one soon. The dating world is a complicated one, and even though there are no “rules” when it comes to dating, there are always nice things to say and things not to say on a first date. The first impact is always the most important one, and because of that, you need to make sure you don’t say any of the following 10 sentences on your first or even second date!
1. “My last relationship…”
Stop right there. Who said it was ok to talk about previous relationships on a first date? Yes, that might be a conversation worth having when in a serious relationship but never on the first dates! It’s a turn-off whenever a date mentions or talks about their ex for more than 5 seconds. After all, if you’re on a first date, past relationships shouldn’t even be a conversation theme. And even if the theme arises, the last thing you want to do is speak poorly or badly about your ex. This will come across as rude and a huge red flag for the other person. At the end of the day, no-one wants to date someone that will talk poorly about them after breaking up, right?
2. “Yes, it’s true. I really did it!”
We all understand the horrible feeling of having to sell yourself at a job interview, but on a first date, you’ll win more points by staying humble and honest. Some people love to talk about them and tell stories about their lives, and when they do this, they tend to exaggerate a little bit, especially if they feel like the other person is enjoying the story. Even though we all love a crazy story, there’s nothing worse than being caught up in a lie. Keep your posture humble and truthful.
3. “I have a gun in my car/house.”
Having a weapon on you is never a positive aspect. If you’re going on a first date and they tell you they have a gun, the first thing you think of is running away as fast as you can! Going on first dates is already risky nowadays, so imagine adding a weapon to it…!!
4. “Want to come to my place?”
Unless you’re receiving very clear signals that the other person wants to hook up, asking this question is normally a turn off for everyone. It’s only the first date! Why are you already asking this? Even if you meant it like “Let’s go play some games,” everyone will interpret it in a very different way. Some may say yes, some may say no, and others may get offended while the rest will ghost you the day after. It’s always a good idea to wait a couple of dates before asking intimate questions.
5. “I still have feelings for my ex.”
Excuse me? Whoever decides to go on dates and says this deserves a bucket of cold water thrown at them. We all understand how hard it is to stop loving someone, but if you’re still in that stage, the last place you should be at is the first date. Nobody wants to date someone who still loves someone else. And if you think that dating new people will help you lose those feelings, it may be a good idea to witch strategies.
6. “Were you always this big?”
Weight-related questions are forbidden. Even if you didn’t mean to criticize or sound like an idiot, many people can feel awkward and offended when asked these types of questions. There’s no worst feeling than being on the first date enjoying your pasta and having your date ask you about your body, weight, if you work out or what your body max index is.
7. “I’m looking for a wife” or “I’m not looking for a serious relationship.”
Unfortunately, in the dating scene, there are always those looking for no commitment or those looking for extreme commitment. In any case, both options will scare away any potential match. After all, what happened to the middle term? What happened to those who date with the intention to know each other and see where it goes from there? If you want to impress your date, focus on the present moment rather than obsessing about the future.
8. “I ordered this for you.”
It’s cute when you order a coffee for someone, but anything else can be seen as controlling and even rude. If it’s the first date, you know nothing about the other person’s taste and what they feel like eating that day. The problem is not really about what you order but the act itself. The worst thing to do is act like a dad or a mom ordering things for their kid. Unless they ask you to, don’t order anything!
9. “I’ve never said this to anyone before…”
Telling secrets is a good way to create trust in a relationship when you already have one, but it can be overwhelming on a first date. In the first place, you never know how trustworthy the other person is, and secondly, you’ll be putting the other person in an awkward place where they can’t express their true feelings. It’s best to keep the conversations light and flowing.
10. “Life isn’t going too well.”
Everyone struggles with their personal lives. Whether it’s family or job related, we all have disappointing and depressive moments, but that doesn’t make you a bad person. Even if you feel like you have a lot of stuff going on, try to get those thoughts out of your head while on a date. It can be a great way to decompress and even find a silver lining. If you’re constantly speaking or thinking negatively about your life, it’s possible that your date feels turned off by it. Now that you know what to never say on a first date, we leave you with some great first date ideas that you can do anywhere in the world.
From going for a walk to the park, having dinner at a friendly restaurant, going to a comedy show, watching a movie, bowling, or doing any activity that’s fun for both. There’s no way you can go wrong with an active date idea because it will end up relaxing both of you while bringing your competitive side to the surface! If you have something else in mind, don’t hesitate to go for it! After all, good date ideas don’t mean anything if you’re not having fun while being yourself!