If you spent your teenage years collecting love frustrations, believe me: you are not the ugly duckling in history. Maybe it’s more like a rubber cat. Jokes aside, despite running after a prince charming, you ended up with someone you didn’t imagine. Think on the bright side: you learned early that real-life relationships are different from fairy tales. This lesson is valuable and will serve you throughout your life. Perhaps, instead of asking how do you know you found the one and mold yourself to it, you can focus on being good with yourself and thus attracting those who really like you.
After all, one of the main signs a marriage will last is a relationship based on mutual sincerity. And what others?
1. Taking responsibility is not a problem
Don’t take all the interpretations of what a marriage was like from romantic comedy movies and series. Entering this agreement involves assuming as a couple that it was not in the script. A wedding is about that too. If during your courtship it was never a problem for him to take responsibility, then you already have an answer to the question about how to know if he’s marriage material.
2. You learn from each other
A “marriage material” is a person as willing as you are to work for the relationship to continue. It is when both are committed to a common goal. Learning from others does not just mean that they know more than you do about a topic, but above all that you are willing to learn, and they are willing to teach, and vice versa. Learning is about that: when you are both open to learning together. A healthy relationship is an exchange, not a one-sided relationship. Therefore, learning only happens if the two are willing.
3. Financial stability has been a reality for some time
Don’t confuse being rich with being financially stable. The latter situation involves a different way of dealing with money. Stability requires balance, organization, and planning, for example, to ensure that expenses are aligned with revenues and that these are higher. These are qualities that can be seen in a good marriage on the subject of money but that are likely to be demonstrated for other circumstances.
4. You have common plans and principles
There is no problem disagreeing on some issues, this is inclusive, healthy, and promotes good debates. What would become of human society without differences, if everyone thought exactly the same? However, this is something else. What makes a man marriage material is the compatibility of his plans for the future with you. In other words, it is important that in matters and main life projects, you converge.
5. The chemistry between you is different
The icing on the cake for a healthy and lasting relationship is chemistry, a kind of magnetism between your hands and bodies. With it, you feel a rare fluidity in touch, in kisses, in intimacy, in conversation, in looks, and so on. In fact, no love relationship remains with just the previous four points and without lust. In this case, it is the pleasure of both that should be in evidence, there must be a balance in delivery to guarantee that of the other.
Did you realize that the main signs of a good marriage are not the personification of perfection in a man but a relationship in which involvement and dedication are balanced? One of the benefits of a good marriage is growing and evolving as a person with another person. What makes the difference, in this case, is the willingness to make it work. And if you chained each of these five points, you can be sure that you already have the main ingredients.