If you can relate to these signs, then the last thing you should be doing is seeking a new partner. In fact, you’ll need to urgently focus on yourself.
I suppose we are all too familiar with how it feels like to want, need, and even yearn to be in a relationship with ‘the one.’ And we are also very familiar with the confusion that comes with not having anyone in your life while all your peers seem to be either happily married or welcoming their first child.
This is all to say that you aren’t alone and you definitely shouldn’t rush yourself into something that you aren’t ready for yet, because otherwise, you’ll end up wasting your time and losing yourself to things that aren’t worth it, not to mention getting your heart broken.
You may have failed in the serious relationship department before, you’ve been single for a long time now, or you’re still recovering from a recent break-up. No matter what situation you’re in, there’s only one way to move forward: dealing with your discomfort or heartache on your own.
Ask yourself where your need to be in a relationship is coming from and whether it’s actually good for your overall wellbeing to feel that way. You have to make sure that your thoughts and behaviors aren’t a mere automatic tendency to take the socially constructed route of coupling up at a certain age.
If you choose to focus on yourself and think about this, you’ll probably find out that being in a relationship is the one thing you shouldn’t be doing.
Today, we’ll take you through the reasons why you aren’t ready to be in a relationship, yet!
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7. Your past is still haunting you
Your emotional scars from past relationships can still haunt your current love life or ruin a great romantic opportunity, especially when you haven’t done much processing, nor got proper closure.
Be aware that letting go of past relationships takes time, so do not rush anything and allow yourself to heal at your very own pace. Also, before you start dating again, make sure you have learned your lessons and closed any open wounds. You don’t want any old baggage suffocating your next love story.
6. Being single doesn’t feel good
You should never waste your precious energy on looking for the perfect soulmate or at least someone who would tick most of the boxes. Because when you’re yearning for happiness, safety, and comfort with another person, you neglect to try and create these fundamental things for yourself first.
Unless you love being single and truly enjoy your own company, you’ll never be completely ready for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. So make sure to master the art of being single before you start going on dates.
Try to work on becoming the things that you so desperately seek in other people. This way, you’ll have higher chances of enjoying who you truly are as well as attracting a partner who helps you become a better version of yourself instead of completing you.
5. Communication isn’t your strong suit
If you find it hard to communicate with others, you aren’t alone. Even though communicating is difficult for many people, it’s something you can learn and improve.
Relationships are filled with all sorts of emotions and feelings more than anything else, which restrains you from expressing your wants and needs freely and frankly.
But knowing that communication is key in a relationship, you should sincerely learn to listen and be more open to what others want from you, as well as express yourself clearly before you say yes to a relationship.
4. You are looking for the perfect soulmate
We all know that no one is perfect, yet we fail to bring it to our awareness when dealing with other people, especially when it comes to romantic relationships.
You should remind yourself at all times that all human beings are both flawed and ever-changing. You will never find perfection in someone else, and even if you did at the moment you’ve met them, that wouldn’t probably be their absolute truth, which will likely change later on.
It’s best to teach yourself to accept others for all that they are, including their strengths, weaknesses, improvements, and changes. This will make it easier for you to go more with the flow of your social life.
3. You want someone to save you
Well, although we all need help and support every once in a while, in the most critical times, most of us are pretty much stronger than we actually think we are.
Many single people tend to enjoy imagining having a hero as their future partner (which is kinda cute), but it is absolutely not sustainable in normal everyday life. A healthy relationship consists of an equal partnership as a very important part because that’s when the real connection happens.
This means you need to learn how to save yourself first if you want your potential relationship to work long term.
2. You simply don’t have a good feeling about it
Your body and your brain may be trying to tell you something, and you just need to listen. For example, you may feel pressured to carry a conversation with someone or feel like you don’t really want to go on a date. These feelings are usually manifested to protect you from doing things you’re not ready for. So trust your intuition.
1. You are obsessed with being in a relationship
Being happy in a relationship is supposed to be a bonus and not a life goal that you cannot live without achieving at all costs. If the need to have a partner is all you think or talk about, it’s a warning sign that you need to find other interests in your life.
Life is full of possibilities; don’t limit yourself to only one. Learn to enjoy your me-time and focus on becoming the best version of yourself. The rest will just fall into place, including being truly ready for a relationship.
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