People in a committed and serious relationship are well aware that good communication is the key to keeping things moving forward healthily and peacefully. However, there is unhealthy communication, and there are some sensitive topics that should be avoided at all costs because
- No one will benefit from discussing them
- There is no actual point to start a conversation around them
- They can actually corrupt your relationship (when they really shouldn’t, but everyone handles things differently, so it’s better to be safe than sorry).
Here are the seven conversations you should never have with your partner if you want to avoid useless arguments in a relationship.
1. Avoid Bragging About Your Previous Intimate experiences
People in a healthy relationship should have no problem talking about their previous partners. In fact, Open communication about the past should be encouraged. But there is a difference between talking about a past relationship and praising your ex’s sexual abilities, and the second one is not recommended. It’s okay to keep the memory, but you don’t have to share it with your current partner and make them feel bad about themselves. There is no point in comparing the two experiences, especially if you are going to hurt the person you are with now.
2. Don’t Be brutal About Your Opinions
Relationship arguments are normal, especially in a long-term relationship. But some of them can easily be avoided if you keep yourself from expressing your opinions so bluntly. So what if you don’t like your partner’s new haircut? There are a thousand ways to let them know without being rude or insensitive. If you are the type of person who keeps expressing their opinion without any regard for how you make your partner feel, you are building a toxic relationship, and guess who the toxic partner is?
3. Insulting Their Friends Or Their Family
You should not feel obligated to like every person your significant other likes, but there is no need to be harsh about it. If you ever have a strong opinion about a friend or a family member of your partner, you can express it politely. Avoid insulting the people they care about, as this can lead to a discussion that can become serious enough to break up the whole relationship.
4. Snooping Around Their Messages/Social Media
First things first: if you feel the need to read your partner’s texts or to spy on their social media accounts, this comes to show that you have serious trusting issues, and maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place. Snooping around is wrong, but telling your partner what you saw is even worse. It will only let them know that you don’t trust them, and it will tell them that they shouldn’t trust you either as you do not respect their privacy.
5. Old Topics In Which You Can’t Agree
If you are going to be with someone, there are some topics in which you should both be on the same page – life-shaping things like politics, moral values, and if you do or don’t want to have kids, for example. But throughout the relationship, some pointless arguments will ignite, and there is also a chance that you won’t be able to see eye to eye in every one of them. And if they aren’t super relevant, it’s better to let them die, bury them and never dig them out again. After all, if you know you are not going to agree with each other, what’s the point of wasting your time and energy, right?
6. Your Cheating History With Previous Partners
Everyone makes mistakes, and cheating can be one of those mistakes. Some people cheat all the time, some people slip once and regret it forever, and some never cheat. Unless you are the last one on this list, do not go telling your partner about your history with betrayal, ok? There is no need to put them on edge about something you did in the past, and that didn’t even involve them. You should only talk to your partner about cheating if they are the ones you cheated on.
7. That You Think Their Friends Are Hot
Ok, you are in a relationship, but you are not blind. Your partner might have a couple of friends who are hot as all hell, but this is not something you want to let them know. Sometimes, beauty is meant to be appreciated in silence, so treat your partner’s pretty friends as if they were museum paintings and keep your thoughts to yourself, all right? Sharing them out loud will benefit no one – it can do quite the opposite.