Cheating husband, cheating wife… The world is full of people who cheat on each other, but why? That is the eternal question that no one seems to be able to answer. Not being satisfied with a relationship is not a good enough reason to go behind someone’s back and do something awful that can damage their confidence and ability to trust forever. But as much as we like to believe that the people we love would never do that to us, the fact that cheating is such an unpredictable behavior means it can happen to anyone.
While you shouldn’t accuse anyone without proof, there might be some weird and unjustified behaviors on your partner’s side that might indicate they are hiding something from you. However, while these signs can be alerting, they do not provide definitive answers to your question, so try to consolidate your evidence before accusing anyone of anything. Everyone’s reality is different, but here are some of the most common signs your partner is a cheater.
1. They keep coming home late
If your partner has always been a night owl, there is quite frankly nothing to be worried about. But if all of a sudden they seem to have changed their after-work routine without providing a decent explanation, who wouldn’t be suspicious? If you are in a long-term relationship, you probably know all about your partner’s time management habits. Humans tend to create routines and stick to them, so any abrupt changes to these daily habits can mean something else… Do you think there is a cause for concern?
2. They won’t let you near their phone
For a relationship to work and succeed, both parties have to trust each other, which means that the need to spy on your partner’s phone doesn’t exist. However, if you casually grab your partner’s cell phone to snap a selfie and they are suddenly nervous and protective of their device, maybe you should start paying more attention to what they are doing. People who have nothing to hide don’t go around acting jumpy and tense just because someone has grabbed their phone.
3. They are spending a lot more money
Being in a committed relationship, chances are that you and your boo share everything. Even a bank account, perhaps? And, of course, as separate people, you will have separate small expenses throughout your day. But if you start noticing any weird spontaneous charges to any of their credit or debit cards, and you can’t find an explanation for it, maybe you should ask. Especially if you are in that sort of relationship where your money is their money – and you are entitled to know how your money is being spent.
4. They are acting all private
If you want to maintain a balanced relationship based on respect and trust, the right to privacy must be one of the limits established between you and your partner from the beginning. However, if you have always respected each other’s privacy, and suddenly you start to notice that they are extending their privacy criterion to aspects of their life that they used to be open about, this behavioral change can be an indicator that your partner is hiding something from you. Keep an eye out because if she/he is cheating, there might be other signs you will be able to notice.
5. They get defensive over nothing
Although cheating seems to be pretty common, the truth is that people who cheat on their partners can hardly ever rest their consciousness. As a result, they will get defensive about small things that make them feel attacked because they know what they’re doing, and they know that it’s wrong. Their sudden urge to defend themselves can raise suspiciousness, especially if they have always been chill and understanding during your dialogues.
6. They suddenly change their looks
Men’s mid-life crisis and women’s mid-life crisis present themselves differently, but both are usually followed by unexpected changes, as people feel the need to reinvent themselves. While a change in haircut can mean nothing, it can also mean something. Is your partner dressing better all of a sudden? Have they changed the perfume they wore for the last couple of years? Or are they shaving when they didn’t use to do it? And if you two are not on great terms lately… Keep an eye out; there might be someone else they are trying to impress.
7. They always need to work
Everyone needs to work; that’s how people make a living. But if you are in a committed relationship and your partner starts working way more than they used to without elaborating on why they scheduled has changed so much… We would begin to suspect that something else is going on. Sure the “I have to work” excuse is an old-time cliché, but some people don’t have that much imagination to come up with something better. Based on this list, what are your thoughts? Do you notice any of these warning signs? Is your partner cheating on you? We sure hope the answer is no, but as everyone says, it’s better to be safe than sorry, right?