Being single is a state in which one isn’t taking part in a relationship with a partner. Although many tend to believe being single is a burden and a product of a great misfortune, it is, in reality, a matter of choice for many others. Many of us choose to go about their journey single, or at least for some part of their journey. Whether you have chosen this path or are in it for lack of a better option, experts say that being single has many benefits and advantages that can enhance your well-being.
Here are some of these benefits that might change your perspective on being single!
1.Being single can help You Know Yourself Better
Although many of us believe that spending time alone is a burden one must carry until a company presents itself to us in the form of a friend, a partner, or a family member. It is, in fact, an unavoidable part of our lives, and the more we try to enjoy it, the more it becomes a strength and a power that helps us face life with more courage. The truth is, when we grant ourselves the chance to deepen the knowledge of our being, we become more aware of our desires, our fears, our hopes, and dreams, and we also become more appreciative of the people we encounter. When we are comfortable being alone, we are also very selective regarding the people we allow in our lives, and we can give more, simply because our choice comes from a genuine place within us, which isn’t one of a necessity, but rather of pure love and understanding.
2. Being Single Can Help You Stay Focused
Being single simply means being uncommitted to a relationship or a person, but that doesn’t mean that we cannot be committed to other things in life. In reality, being single is a great time to focus on one’s career, studies, or even a greater cause. One does not always have to fall in love with a person. We can easily be passionate about painting, writing, or even volunteering at elderly homes or protecting the environment. This is when our focus can be placed on our career and studies, making us excel in our jobs and maybe climb the corporate leather faster. What’s to stop us?
After all, we must admit that committing to a hobby, a job, or even a cause is much easier than committing to a relationship involving two individuals with totally different backgrounds, beliefs, and habits. “Am I in love? Absolutely. I’m in love with ancient philosophers, foreign painters, classic authors, and musicians who have died long ago. I’m a passionate lover. I fawn over these people. I have given them my heart and my soul. The trouble is, I’m unable to love anyone tangible. I have sacrificed a physical bond for a metaphysical relationship. I am the ultimate idealistic lover.” – James Dean
3. Flexible On Your Own Terms
There is a lot of flexibility that comes with leading a single life. The world is a sea of opportunities, and the options are simply unlimited. It all comes down to one single point: whether we seize these opportunities or pass by unaware of their presence. Being single gives us this flexibility of choice without considering someone else’s opinion or circumstances surrounding the relationship. When an opportunity presents itself to us, we can simply choose to give it a shot. For instance, if we get a dream job offer on the other side of the hemisphere, we will not have to think twice about it. Whether we decide to join the peace corps, apply for an MBA, or go on a silent meditation trip to India, the choice will be completely ours.
4. Making The Right Choices
Embracing being single is acknowledging this fact as a choice rather than a misfortune. This allows you to change your perspective on relationships, so when you meet someone you know, you feel more confident and reassured of your choice because it was not just a random selection. Embracing the single life gives you time to reflect on what you want from a relationship and whether you are ready for it or not, making you more prone to choosing a healthy and mature partner. This confidence you gain goes beyond your choice of partners. It also helps you know your limits in terms of communicating with other people. Whether it’s your colleagues at work, classmates, siblings, or neighbors, you’ll know when your line is being crossed.
5. Emotional Independence
Emotional intelligence is a concept that has been surfacing and gaining a lot of popularity ever since the beginning of the decade. It has been defined as; “the ability to recognize one’s own emotions and those of others, all while uncovering each emotion separately and using it as a liable information to guide our approach in life, and also adjust it when needed to adapt to new environments and solve complex issues.” Being single allows you to become more emotionally intelligent, and therefore emotionally independent. This means that you don’t need anyone’s validation or approval to feel whatever you are feeling at that exact moment.
Some of us are more introverted than others. Some are versatile and can be extremely extroverted under the right circumstances while having a need for introversion every now and then. Anxiety, stress, feeling too much, and being numb at times, are things we can all relate to, yet none of us fully comprehend it. More often than not, we give ourselves and others a hard time allowing these feelings to surface, while it is a completely natural and human thing. Being single is a great way to work on our emotional independence, making us good and active members of our communities. When the time is right, we will be healthy partners, good parents, loyal friends, and compassionate individuals.
6. The Best Of Both Worlds
Being single doesn’t mean you’re completely off the dating scene. In fact, it allows getting the best of both worlds. You enjoy the freedom and flexibility that comes with not being officially committed to anyone while getting all the fun from meeting new people and going on blind dates. Flirting is a natural and enjoyable way of boosting your self-confidence, all while having a good time. Genuine fluid flirting is also a great way to connect with others and improve your social skills, not to mention that casual dating is almost like an ‘internship’ for future relationships.
7. Being Single Can Help You Find The Right Balance
Being single doesn’t mean that you are completely illiterate about romantic relationships. This time only allows you to compare and reflect on your previous relationships, or those of the people you love, like your parents or friends. It is undeniable that these relationships have affected you in a way or another. Therefore it is very important to understand its impacts and try to find your balance. This balance is made of all the lessons you’ve learned in the past and things you saw in your surroundings. It is a self-balance that allows you to stay grounded and recognize patterns of behavior either in yourself or others, and know how to deal with them, even when it gets overwhelming.
8. Taking It Lightly
Relationships, although enjoyable, can be mentally exhausting. Your brain is constantly occupied because it is digesting your own thoughts and emotions and those of your partner. Having this space of clearness in your mind allows you to lighten up your approach to life. You don’t always have to overthink things or have to guess because you’re dealing only with emotions that are yours. On some occasions, you might have to think of a friend’s problem or try to second doubt a work email. You’ll have all the space in your well-rested brain to digest it objectively.
9. Taking Responsibility For Your Finances
Many people believe that one of the positive aspects of relationships is having a cooperative approach to finances, meaning there are many shared finances and planning involved. On the other hand, being single means having no shared expenses or financial responsibilities, which puts you in the front, in terms of managing your own money. Of course, you’ll be drowned in some impulsive buying or excessive spending every now and then, but you’ll learn from it because you’ll be the one dealing with the minus in your bank balance.
When you’re in charge of your own finances, you’ll be able to adjust it to your own needs and wants, and therefore establish a smart financial plan that works best for you. To sum up, human relationships of any shape and form can be quite challenging and consuming especially romantic ones. Romantic relationships take a lot of commitment, understanding, self-awareness, and empathy because you’re not only responsible for your own well-being but also that of your partner. That is why one must not rush into one, out of fear of staying single, because there are many ways this latter can improve our lives and prepare us to become better individuals and healthier partners.