Do you feel like no matter how much you tried to get close with your partner, it always feels like you’re reaching for the wind and ending up with empty hands? Let me rephrase that; Do you feel insecure in your current relationship? Are you scared you might wake up one day and find a breakup text? If you’re the only one overthinking and stressing in the relationship when your partner doesn’t have care at all, then you must be in a one sided relationship.
Now, how can someone be in a one sided relationship? Doesn’t a relationship involve two people? Well, not all couples are equally invested in their relationship, and while you might see a future with your partner, the latter may not be as serious about you. One sided relationships are cruel and hurtful, but they’re definitely not uncommon. So, what are the odds that you might be in a one sided relationship? Check all the signs you are in one!
1. You’re always initiating communication
Are you always the one texting first? Aways the one making date plans? If you know that you’re the only one making efforts to communicate or spend time with your boyfriend or girlfriend, then it’s a sign you’re in a one sided relationship. Relationships are all about mutual efforts and openness. It’s never only one partner who has to do all the work while the other is not as excited or invested in the relationship.
2. They don’t give you attention
Getting your partner’s attention when you’re together should never feel like a task. It just comes naturally to you as you love and crave each other’s company. You enjoy hanging out with each other and feel like your best selves around each other. But, if your partner makes you feel like an attention seeker when you’re actually the one being ignored, then that’s not only a toxic relationship but also a one-sided one.
3. They don’t support you
Being supportive of your partner is a big sign of a healthy relationship. But what if your partner is discouraging you from your goals or decision instead of supporting you? That’s called an unhealthy relationship! Your partner should make you feel empowered, not powerless, so don’t waste your time on somebody like that.
4. They keep things from you
So your partner has been promoted at work, and you’re the last person to know? Finding out about your partner’s life updates, whether they are good or bad, from their friends instead of from them is such a hard blow. If your partner doesn’t even bother to share their happiness or problems with you but is happily sharing them with a coworker or anybody who’s not you, then you’re obviously in a one sided relationship. It is only natural to want to share happy news or sad ones with the man or woman in our lives, but if you cannot relate to this, it’s about time you moved on.
5. You’re not their priority
So there is a soccer game at 8 PM that your significant other was meaning to watch, but you’re sick and need to be taken care of. What does your partner do? Do they stay in to take care of you, or do they go to watch the game with their buds? If the first, you’re in a loving and committed relationship, if the last, you’re definitely not your partner’s priority, and you guessed it you’re in a one sided relationship! If you feel like you’re trying too hard to maintain the relationship when the other person is not putting in any efforts or make a date night feel like a task to finish ASAP, then you need to overthink this relationship and make a wise decision. Never settle for less than what you deserve: healthy communication with a loving partner who is serious about your relationship and not just fooling around!