One common reason why couples break up has to do with one of them losing interest. This can happen when they’ve met someone else, or maybe the excitement isn’t there anymore, which often occurs in a long-term relationship. Whichever the case, there are always some warning signs that you can detect early on. If you’re successful in identifying these, you may end up saving the relationship, that is, if it’s still worth saving. So if you feel like your partner is being distant or something has changed in your dynamic as a couple, keep reading to discover the 8 main signs that they may be losing interest.
8. They are not available
Is your partner’s schedule suddenly full? If so, and there’s no apparent reason for it, they might be avoiding you. Whenever we feel a relationship crumble or start to lose interest, we tend to avoid the other person. Being with them feels unnatural and forced, and of course, as adults, there are much better and more respectful ways to deal with this. Still, it just happens to be something unconsciously, like making up excuses or saying that we’re busy to avoid being with our partner. Many things can get in between a relationship, like work, mental problems, and friends, but none of these should be a reason for losing interest in being with your soulmate.
7. There’s a lack of communication
A lot of arguments and problems arise due to bad communication in a relationship. Most of the time, couples argue over a misunderstanding, which was caused by a bad choice of words. And this is equal to bad communication. For a relationship to work, communication must be a part of your daily routine as a couple, and if something feels off or you’re having a bad day, you talk about it with your partner instead of hiding it from them. You don’t need to text each other 24/7 or call each other every night, but if your partner is suddenly not communicating with you, directly or through the phone, then something is up.
6. They don’t plan anything
In every relationship, the woman is known to be the one to plan everything, from dates and restaurants to weekend getaways. Somehow, there’s always one person who does it all. Now, this may happen because the other person in the relationship is either clueless or super busy, but it can also happen because the other person in the relationship is nowhere near interested in doing such activities. If your partner is always coming up with excuses as to why you shouldn’t go on a trip or something as simple as going to the beach together, then that’s a clear red flag that maybe the problem is not the plans but the fact that you’re the company.
5. They are not being trustworthy
How can you be in a healthy relationship if there’s no trust? Honesty, communication, and loyalty are things that cannot miss in any successful relationship. Normally, you must be able to rely on your significant other for everything and anything. They should be not only your partner but also your best friend. But things can change over time, and maybe you’re beginning to realize that you can’t trust them anymore, or maybe they’ve let you down a couple of times, and that’s starting to mess with your trust. Just know there’s no way you can have a relationship if there’s no mutual trust.
4. Lack of intimacy
Any romantic relationship requires intimacy. Intimacy can be anything from a kiss on the cheek to sensual intercourse. The key to intimacy is expressing your love and desire for the other person physically. And normally, when you lose interest in someone, the physical attraction also disappears. This is a sign that’s noticeable right away, especially if your partner has always been affectionate and loving with you. A drastic change like going from cuddly to not even touching you can tell you a lot about what’s happening, and normally it’s not a good sign at all.
3. They have a low temper
If your partner is suddenly acting angry or being mean to you, then that’s a sign that they’re mad at themselves. Normally, this has to do with the inability to express their feelings well. Let’s see it this way, they lose their interest in you and feel frustrated because they don’t want to tell you but they also don’t want to talk or be with you anymore, so they get mad at you for little things or for no reason at all. If you feel like you‘re walking on eggshells whenever you communicate with your partner because they’re so argumentative and rude unnecessarily, then you’re in a toxic relationship that you need to end as soon as possible!
2. They don’t hear you
One of the last signs your partner is losing interest has to do with the attention they give you. Let’s say you’re talking to them about your day or telling them something important, but they seem to not even hear whatever you’re saying. They may be distracted, or maybe they just don’t care or are not interested in listening to your thoughts or opinions, which could mean their heart is somewhere else and so is their mind.
1. You only have basic conversations
There’s nothing worse than not being able to have interesting conversations with your partner. Even in a long-lasting relationship when you already know everything about each other, there’s still space for stimulating discussions and learning new things about each other. So if you’re noticing that your partner keeps the conversations short and plain, like the typical “hey, how was your day” or if they don’t even make an effort to talk to you about something else, then it’s possible that they’re feeling bored or losing interest.
At the end of the day, if you could relate to more than one of the signs on this list, then it’s clear that you’re not in a happy or healthy relationship. It might hurt knowing that your partner had lost their interest in the relationship, but that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; you’re just not the right match for each other. Remember, your failed relationships are intended to help you grow as a person so you can be ready to have the perfect relationship in the future.