Love sweet love! No one in the world can deny the fact that love is one of the most beautiful and powerful feelings in the world. It is something that you cannot predict or control. When it happens it just happens and that’s all!
What makes this feeling priceless is the butterflies you have in the stomach when you see the one your heart beats for! Sometimes you might even feel the whole zoo, not just the butterflies, isn’t it amazing?
However, nothing shall last forever, not even this beautiful and amazing passionate feeling we call love. According to scientists, love cannot last forever even if you want to because your body won’t be able to cope with it.
Let’s find out together why such a priceless feeling has to fade away and how we can save our relationships when it’s gone!
1. WE TEND TO EXPERIENCE EUPHORIA WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE
Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki, who are neuroscientists at the University College London carried out a study and came out with the conclusion that people who fall in love tend to experience Euphoria. The latter is a feeling of extreme happiness that is triggered by passion and occurs at the moment when you see the one you love.
In fact, this euphoria effect occurs when the brain and adrenal glands release a hormone known as the ‘’noradrenaline’’ and scientists also added that this feeling is also produced when drug addicts take a dose of their chosen drug.
That explains why a person that is in love always crave to see the one he or she loves more and more.
2. WE TEND TO HAVE A HORMONAL COCKTAIL IN OUR BODY WHEN WE FALL IN LOVE
Love is blind for a reason! In fact, scientists say that when a person is experiencing the feeling of love, many chemicals tend to be produced in the brain. These chemicals are what make the person in love sees his/her partner as a perfect God or Goddess.
And that’s also the reason why the person in love may depend on their partner emotionally and only feel happy when their beloved is around. Hence, these chemicals or hormones play a great role in our love relationship.
- Oxytocin: This hormone is mainly responsible for emotional attachment and what contributes to the depth of your connection with your beloved. When this hormone is released by the hypothalamus, your stress levels go down and your desire gets higher and stronger.
- Vasopressin: Again, this chemical is responsible for emotional attachment and more precisely for fidelity, which can be defined as the desire to take care of each other and be faithful and truthful to one another.
- Dopamine: This is the hormone of pleasure that is produced in higher amounts and great quantities when we eat or make love. These hormones make us feel pleasant and delightful.
- Serotonin: this hormone is mainly responsible for our ability to feel pleasure. It contributes to improving our mood and emotional state and also improves the quality of our intimate life.
- Cortisol: this is the stress hormone and usually it is always high at the beginning of a relationship.
- Pheromones: if you wonder which hormone that makes your love bond grow stronger, then, it is definitely this one! It is produced by our body’s sweat glands and tends to affect the receptors of the olfactory system.
This hormonal cocktail occurring in your body is what makes your body go through many psychological reactions, including fast heartbeats, trembling and weak knees, sleep disorders, and loss of appetite.
3. WHY THE FEELING OF FALLING IN LOVE FADES AWAY WITH TIME
According to science, our amorousness is nothing but a chemical process that will last no more than 3 years. Some of you might be wondering why our ancestors made it and stayed forever in love? Well, very simply because in the past, life wasn’t as easy and comfortable as today.
So, it would have been impossible for them to look after their children, find food, and protect themselves if they were all alone. So, they had to stay together for the sake of their children’s survival and not because they are in love.
From a scientific perspective, the nerve endings become almost insensitive after 3 years of time and the hormones tend to be produced in a much lower concentration and therefore stop stimulating the couple’s emotional attachment.
4. ARE ALL OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS DOOMED?
The period of falling in love is really exhausting and stressful for our bodies and it seems that true love begins at the moment when these hormonal cocktail stops working as effectively as the first time we’ve fallen in love.
However, scientists found that to maintain a long-term relationship full of love, passion, and affection, you need to touch your partner more and show more tenderness and affection as the attachment feeling that makes us live with our partner for a long period of time is related to oxytocin hormone and vasopressin.
The level of oxytocin, for instance, increases when people hug, make love, kiss, or just chat. So, take advantage of this fact and make your relationship grow longer and stronger!